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My name is Phoebe. I stole my brothers swatch which I have now broken. I still hate mushrooms. Oh and I think we should be friends~  bead(s) scattering
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Her dress was white and it whispered.

I think my life in just Reichenbach feels and that’s all it’s ever going to amount to, the girl with the Reichenbach feels 

When people bring up your blog up at school and don’t realise that everything you do, say, or post is all sarcastic and meant for ironic laughs. 

All I want to do is wear man socks and drink Aloe Vera juice and soothe my dry as the fucking desert face with intensive moisturiser.  

Perfection.

A lot of people have these strange ideas on perfection. The perfect body, the perfect personality, the perfect lifestyle, the perfect sex life or partner. I don’t really understand. I get that yes, there are amazingly attractive people, there are funny people but I don’t understand why people strive to be more like someone else instead of focusing on themselves and trying to find out who they are. 

We are bombarded with images, stories, everything on how perfect someone looks or how fun they are and we think ‘Why don’t I look like her?’ or ‘How come I’m not fun?’ Now it’s hard, yeah, but as soon as you get to the point in your life where you are completely comfortable about your looks and who you are and your beliefs then you’re like the fucking Juggernaut, unstoppable. Seriously someone calls you fat or whatever, you’re just like ‘Bitch please, those words mean nothing to me now’. It’s great.

There will always be that person on your Facebook with all those friends, who goes out all the time and they always look good in every single photo. Well good for them. That’s who they are. But what about you? If people started focusing on themselves more then I swear there would be less problems. Why don’t you stop caring about what other people wear and how they look and turn to yourself for a moment. I know people who I think don’t even know themselves because they are so consumed with the lives of others. Who are you? 

So I guess just find yourself, accept it and move on. There are more important things in life, don’t waste your time worrying about other people. 

Religion.

I don’t really have a lot to say on this. I think religion and beliefs are perfectly fine. I personally am not religious but I am also not an atheist. I see nothing wrong with being atheist either. I haven’t really felt a need to learn about certain religions at this point in my life but I’m not closed to the idea that maybe in the future I will find something that I believe in or that gives me hope. 

It’s also upsetting that wars are fought over religion and that people fight between themselves over their beliefs as well. Everyone has a right to believe whatever they choose. I think everyone in this world should have the right to do as they please, think what they want, believe in what they choose as long as it does not bring harm to others.

Also, I take biology and of course we talk about evolution and how we came to be. Now the teacher talks about how we evolved from monkeys after the big bang or whatever and there is this one kid who whenever she says evolution, corrects her saying that it is the theory of evolution. Now yes, that’s correct it is a theory. But I find this constant correction to be quite annoying. People are allowed to believe what they want. Yes, you may not believe in evolution, but others may think that’s how we came to be. And this is perfectly fine. Just because someone doesn’t believe the same you as you, doesn’t mean they’re wrong or being disrespectful. What I think I’m trying to say, is that it’s very, very important to respect others beliefs even if you don’t believe in it yourself. And this doesn’t just stop at religion. This applies to all beliefs and decisions. People base their decisions and reasoning off things like personal experience and things they have learnt and it’s going to be different to the persons next to them. So of course peoples thoughts will be different and that’s perfectly fine and swell. Just respect. 

My religion post turned into respect peoples beliefs/ opinions. I don’t really know what happened to it.

Night everyone, I did plan on going to bed early tonight but I’m really glad we had our discussions. As requested I’m going to write a post about religion tomorrow if I can. But right now I feel almost exhausted. I hope I didn’t scare any of you off from joining  in with your opinion but bear in mind that it is very difficult to clearly express your opinions about topics like this so that people aren’t offended. Also if you think that some of the things I say are ignorant or whatever tell me. Good job anon, who sent me that message talking about suicide. I want you to question what I’m saying and give me your opinion. I’m just trying to give you all food for thought of course, you do not have to believe what I’m saying or anything. So thanks anyway. I enjoyed this evening, even though I feel a little sad and upset after it all. Just because of the topics mind. Till tomorrow.

c-alcifer replied to your post: the thing I hate most about rape is that the women are punished more than the men. the women are told they dressed ‘too slutty’, or flirted too much and by dressing how they want and talking how they want they somehow ‘asked for it’. I think the blame culture associated with rape is despicable and that instead of teaching women to hide their bodies and shy away from speaking to men we really need to teach these beasts respect women and teach them not to rape in the first place.

even that, why should I have to worry about walking home alone! bitches just need to hop off my shit…

I also agree. No one should have to worry about walking home alone at night, or even be afraid of rape. But we don’t live in a perfect world. There are sick people out there who will try and take advantage of others. I agree. I want to walk home from work and not have some dick beep their horn at me and make me feel gross inside. But sadly, until society changes, women just need to be safe. And when I say this I don’t mean they shouldn’t go out past 9 or get drunk or have a life and that they should lock themselves in their house and do nothing. I just mean that I don’t want people to get hurt and unfortunately woman have to be concious of these things and base certain decisions around this. They shouldn’t have to of course, but they do. 

"the thing I hate most about rape is that the women are punished more than the men. the women are told they dressed 'too slutty', or flirted too much and by dressing how they want and talking how they want they somehow 'asked for it'. I think the blame culture associated with rape is despicable and that instead of teaching women to hide their bodies and shy away from speaking to men we really need to teach these beasts respect women and teach them not to rape in the first place."
- c-alcifer

I agree. I agree. So many people put the blame of rape on women when of course no one walks out of their home thinking ‘I want to get raped today’. Women have the freedom to dress how they please and should not be punished for it. When you go out, you should not have to put up with being wolf-whistled at just because you’re wearing a short skirt. I also agree that men should have more respect towards women, some do these days, obviously no one is saying that all men are rapists. I think the most important thing is to just be as safe as possible, go out with friends, don’t walk home alone. That sort of thing. But I completely agree that the blame of rape should not automatically be pushed over to the woman just because she went out clubbing in a dress.

Rape.

I find rape very distressing. I don’t like movies with the theme of rape, I don’t like books containing rape and I don’t like talking about it much. But only because it makes me upset. It took me a long time to write something that clearly explained my feelings on the matter and I found that I just couldn’t. So I’m sorry for not being able to share my opinions. 

"people don't kill themselves because no one likes them. don't be so idiotic. there are a million and one reasons why someone would choose to end their life, popularity is not one of them."
- Anonymous

You think that I think people only take their lives because the popular kids at school don’t like them, how can you be so idiotic? Of course there are a million more reasons. But what I’m saying is that there will be someone there for you and that you don’t have to go through whatever you are going through by yourself. Don’t you think that it’s important to let people know that you care for them? Because I personally believe that it would help knowing someone was there with you.

It’s also difficult to get one’s opinion about something like this across on the internet because words can be interpreted so many different ways. Like when you read what I wrote, you made the assumption that I was ignorant, when I was just trying to explain my thoughts on the matter.

Suicide.

I find suicide very upsetting. I think no one should ever get to the stage where they feel like taking their own life. Help should always be available. Friends and family should not ignore any signs. But I think that people hide how they feel very well and it’s difficult for others to tell whether that person is upset or not. But I think, that who ever you meet, where ever you are, you should always give them your most positive side, especially strangers. A true smile from a stranger can mean a lot, however cliché and cheesy that sounds. Don’t tell me that when that the when the boy behind the counter gives you a genuine smile you don’t feel good.

Now when it comes to friends I think it’s easy to start thinking of them as something you’ll always have, someone that will never leave and it’s easy to start letting slip comments that can be hurtful or upsetting. Try, try, try to be the best friend you can be. Help people see how beautiful and wonderful and magical they are. And how important they are to you. Just let them know you love them. 

And when people say that suicide is a personal choice and if they feel that’s the only option they have left then just let them be, I get really upset. What this says to me is how ignorant you are. Yes, suicide may be a personal choice, but it’s not an option. Out of the 7 billion fucking people on this planet you’re saying that not one is going to ever like you in your entire existence? People will like you, they’ll love your smile, someone will love that body that you think is imperfect, someone will love your personality and one day you’ll be someone’s everything.

Never let anyone tell you that you are anything less than magical. 

Depression.

Okay now this is just my opinion on depression. A lot of people talk about it and I think everyone at one point or another feels sad for a long period of time, whether it be weeks or months or however long. Looking back I think I was depressed for quite a while too. I think being sad is fine but being sad for a long time can be really really exhausting and draining. 

I hear a lot of people say that depression is a choice. I think that’s completely wrong. Some days you just wake up bummed. You don’t go to sleep the night before and think ‘Tomorrow I’m going to be really sad all day’. I think depression almost becomes like a hole that you’ve fallen into and it takes a lot of effort to climb back out.

I also see a lot of people say that others who say they’re depressed actually aren’t. Now I think this is inaccurate as well. Yeah, sure there will be that kid at school who exaggerates on how they’re feeling or experiments with cutting for no other reason than to be ‘cool’. But I think you need to listen to someone if they say they’re down. Don’t mock them or ignore it because you don’t know what to do. Sometimes you just wake up one day and you feel unhappy and you just don’t know why.

And just because someone isn’t clinically depressed doesn’t mean they’re not.